by Hazrat Haji Muhammed Farouq Sahib (Nawarallahu Markadahu)
There are some who suffer from another misconception. Shaytaan beguiles them into thinking that there is no harm in admiring a beautiful human form or shape (such as a woman) They compare it to admiring a beautifully blooming bud, fine clothes and aesthetic architecture. This is the height of deception! The admiration of these entities is totally different to the admiration lavished on a beautiful woman. The difference has been explained in a brief and beautiful example by Abbaji (Hazrat Moulana Maseehullah, may Allah shower mercy upon him over and over again!) in the following words,
“Look at a beautifully appetizing guava, look at some delectable grapes and then look at a thin skinned lemon. Is there any difference or not? Cut the guava. Will the mouth water? Thereafter cut the lemon, squeeze it and see what happens. The mouths of people witnessing this will actually begin to water.
This is the difference between looking at a guava and a lemon. Looking at the guava does not make the mouth water, nor does cutting it solicit that effect. Whereas, not only cutting the lemon but merely looking at it has the effect of making the mouth water.”
(Thus, gazing at an attractive woman causes the mouth (i. e. the desires) to water, arousing lust and passion. But not so when looking at the beauty of flowers, scenery, buildings, etc.)
The fact of the matter is that we should protect ourselves from those things that warrant being protected from. We must take the utmost care regarding matters which require abstention, which wreak havoc with our Imaan. Never trust your Nafs. Abbaji used to always recite:
There is no reliability on this Nafs-e-Ammarah O ascetic!
Even if it becomes an angel, remain suspicious of it.
Useless desires arise to put cheek to cheek, to hug and embrace. This is a malady, a very serious and evil disease, gentlemen.
If an individual were to claim that to him a beautiful woman is no different to a beautiful camel and that he regards both with an equal degree of appreciation, he is an absolute liar whose deception is detected by the Ahlullah.